6 Gender-Neutral Bar and Bat Mitzvah Themes

MyJewishParty guest author post

One tricky aspect to choosing a Bar or Bat Mitzvah theme, is that kids at this age tend to be entering a time of co-ed friend groups, but are still somewhat stuck in the toy store world of gender-stereotyped products. Of course, stereotypes and labels are becoming less and less of the stronghold they once were, but you still want to make sure your theme feels approachable for everyone.

Here are a few themes that are “gender-neutral” enough to include everyone, regardless of how your guests identify or what hobbies peak their interest.

  1. 1) Beach Theme

    surfboard bar table to rent
    Who doesn’t love a day at the beach? Whether you’re into watersports, Jimmy Buffet music, or just warm weather lounging, it’s nice to feel your toes in sand (literally or otherwise). A beach theme is one that can be done on any budget, too. Want to go big? You can rent large palm trees and a surfboard bar for decor. Hire a steel drum player or even a hula dancer for entertainment! Prefer low key? The local party supply store will have plenty of decorations to keep things beachy. Add games such as frisbee, cornhole, and horseshoes to entertain the gang for hours.

  2. 2) Sports Theme

    small floor hockey arena to rent
    Not everyone loves sports, but everyone has something they love about sports. Whether you’re the one who hits the ballgame for the peanuts and cracker jacks, cheers on the cheerleaders more than the players, or just can crush the arcade version of an actual sports game, we all love to be surrounded by the spirit of friendly competition.

  3. 3) Carnival Theme

    bring home the bacon carnival game to rent
    Many people associate carnivals with really young kids, but carnivals are actually ideal for preteens. Not only are are older kids able to enjoy the games with minimal supervision (more grownup time!), but it’s often the age where winning someone a prize or initiating a small wager over a game is the sweetest form of flirtation.

  4. 4) Hollywood Theme

    Hollywood sign to rent
    Adolescence is a time of transitioning. Tweens often turn to movies and public figures to mimic behavior and get an idea of what the future holds. This creates a few years of obsession over certain celebrities and/or movies. To turn it back to make it about the guest of honor, though, you can showcase his or her favorites using table names of favorite stars, activities that mimic specific films, and a red carpet entrance that allows them to be the admired one.

  5. 5) Decades Theme

    1950's malt shop diner to rent
    Your kids may hate hearing you stories about the past, but they love time traveling there themselves. Just look at the old fashion trends and throwback movies that are circling around time and time again! Anything from a 1950s malt shoppe, to a flashy 70s disco, to a totally rad (brightly colored!) 90s bash will provide the added bonus of your chance to say “I remember when…”

  6. 6) Upside Down/Backwards Theme

    Turn teenage rebellion on its head by creating a theme that relies on things being against the rules! Serve a naked cake (perhaps before dinner?), “graffiti” or screen print shirts, and encourage outrageous or inside-out clothing. Should you and your family find it appropriate, you can even consider a trick candle for one of your candle-lighting ceremony honorees!

About this guest author

Karen Gordon is the VP of Growth at Goodshuffle. Goodshuffle is simplifying event rentals with their online marketplace which makes it easy to shop, compare prices, and book your rentals all with a few quick clicks. Their software product, Goodshuffle Pro, streamlines operations for event rental companies.

Modern Tree of Life Bar Mitzvah Invitation Set in Green Brown

Green Brown Tree of Life Bar Mitzvah Invitation Set

Green Brown Tree of Life Bar Mitzvah Invitation Set


A tree of life (Etz Chayim, Etz Hayim) theme for a Bar Mitzvah or Bat Mitzvah is a great choice! It’s traditional and is brimming with spiritual symbolism. In this post we are showcasing a unique brown and green Tree of Life Bar Mitzvah invitation (or can be used for a Bat Mitzvah as well).

Traditional Judaism considers talmud Torah (the study of the Torah) as the Tree of Life. The study of the Torah (or the Tree of Life) promises wisdom to those who “lay hold of her”. The Torah scroll (parchment) utilized during the ritual is mounted on (attached between) two wooden poles or rollers that are its handles. These wooden rollers are described as the etz chayim, the Tree of Life. Therefore, when the child holds the Torah during the ritual, they are, metaphorically, holding the Tree of Life in their arms. As such, the Tree of Life symbolizes the wisdom of the Torah:

“Its ways are ways of pleasantness, and all its paths are peace. It is a tree of life for those who grasp it, and those who draw near it are fortunate.” [Proverbs] 3:17-18

Also, trees, have special spiritual meaning and are often thought of as metaphors for life and humanity’s existence in the world. This is also true in Judaism. In the Torah, the tree symbolizes both man and the Torah. Both man and the Torah possess all of the four major components of the tree: roots, trunk, branches, fruit.

As you can see, the Tree of Life is wonderful symbolism for the Bar Mitzvah or Bat Mitzvah coming of age ritual.

The design shown here is one of a few we have available in this theme. This particular Tree of Life Bar Mitzvah invitation set was designed by Webgrrl. The set is beautiful and green like the Garden of Eden!

Features of this Green and Brown Tree of Life Mitzvah invitation set:

  • Beautiful and natural green and brown in color
  • Unique Tree of Life depicted… it appears stitched or quilted like a quilt
  • Unique fonts and typography layout
  • Modern storybook illustration style
  • Star of David on the back of the invitation
  • Suitable for Bar Mitzvah or Bat Mitzvah
  • Reception wording can be added to the back of the invitation to save costs (if you’d like a separate reception card, please contact the designer)
  • Looks great on the #120 uncoated accent opaque or white felt paper.
  • Wording can be changed however you’d like.

This Tree of Life Bar or Bat Mitzvah invitation set has a matching RSVP card, address labels, and a flat thank you postcard available for purchase. Reception wording can be added to the back of the invitation or, if you want, you can request that the designer create a separate reception card to go with the set. Also, the thank you card can have your son’s or daughter’s name on the front. And the address on the postcard can be from your son or daughter as well… rather than your names. It’s up to you what you want the wording to be. Any of the wording can be changed (or removed) so that you get exactly what you want.

Purchase this Modern Tree of Life Mitzvah invitation set

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  • Tree of Life Bar Mitzvah Invitation
  • Tree of Life Bar Mitzvah RSVP Reply Card
  • Tree of Life Bar Mitzvah Address Labels
  • Tree of Life Bar Mitzvah Thank You Postcard

Want any other items to go along with this design or have questions about purchasing this invitation set? Contact Lemon Leaf Prints designer Webgrrl using the “ask the designer” link on any of the above product pages and Webgrrl will help with any questions or requests.

Candyland Candy Theme Bat Mitzvah Invitation Set

Candyland Candy Themed Bat Mitzvah Invitation Set

Candyland Candy Themed Bat Mitzvah Invitation Set

We have a super cute Bat Mitzvah invitation set to show you with this post! Check out this fabulous Candyland candy themed Bat Mitzvah invitation set!

This Candyland Bat Mitzvah invitation is bright and cheerful and features all sorts of candy and candy colors. Bright pink, yellow, purple, orange, blue, and green are paired with a candy shop storefront, a vintage gumball machine, candy stripe patterns, and assorted sugar candies. At the top of the storefront is the “store name” which you can make into a cute play on your daughter’s name. In this case, it’s Gabbyland for Gabby… other first names that end in “y” or “i” would also work (Abby, Annie, Debby, etc). If your daughter’s name does not work well with the Candyland theme, the “store name” at the top can just be her first name instead or perhaps you can think of some other creative “store name” that you’d like to use.

This versatile Candyland Bat Mitzvah invitation has the reception wording on the back in a complimentary design. You can purchase a separate matching RSVP card, address labels, and a flat thank you card.

Features of this candy Candyland Bat Mitzvah invitation set:

  • Bright pink, purple, yellow, orange, blue, and green in color
  • Invitation is made to look like it is a candy shop
  • Lots of candy stripes and candies
  • Cute, cartoon style fonts
  • Hebrew name added free of charge. If you don’t want the Hebrew name, it can be removed
  • Reception wording on the back of the invitation to save costs (if you’d like a separate reception card, please contact the designer)
  • Looks great on any of the available paper types, but #110 ice pearl paper would add some sparkle.
  • Wording can be changed however you’d like.

There is currently a combo Bat Mitzvah invitation and reception card, a reply card, address labels, and a flat thank you card available for purchase in this design. The invitation is very versatile and can include the wording for the service, the reception/party, and the rsvp too if you want a more affordable option. Any of the wording can be changed (or removed) so that you get exactly what you want. Perfect for a Candyland, candy, or candy buffet Bat Mitzvah.

Purchase this Candyland Candy Bat Mitzvah invitation set

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  • Candyland Candy Themed Bat Mitzvah Invitation
  • Candyland Candy Themed Bat Mitzvah Rsvp Card
  • Candyland Candy Themed Bat Mitzvah Address Labels Version 1
  • Candyland Candy Themed Bat Mitzvah Address Labels Version 2
  • Candyland Candy Themed Bat Mitzvah Flat Thank You Cards

Want any other items to go along with this design or have questions about purchasing this invitation set? Contact Lemon Leaf Prints designer NiteOwl Studio using the “ask the designer” link on any of the above product pages and NiteOwl Studio will help with any questions or requests.

Pink Purple Party Balloons Bat Mitzvah Invitation Set

Party balloons decor pink purple Bat Mitzvah invitation set

Hosting a pink and purple Bat Mitzvah? Lemon Leaf Prints has this unique party balloons pink and purple Bat Mitzvah invitation set. This Bat Mitzvah invitation set is perfect for a spring, summer, or winter pink and purple Bat Mitzvah.

This party balloons Bat Mitzvah invitation set prominently features a variety of party decor, including balloons, napkins, ribbons, bows, and flowers. The dominant pink color in the invitation is fuchsia / hot pink / magenta. The dominant purple color in the invitation is royal purple. There are also shades of baby pink, gold, and white. This design works for a celebration with a pink and purple color theme and works best for spring, summer, or winter Bat Mitzvahs. It’s a unique design that focuses on the celebratory aspect of the occasion.

Features of this pink purple party balloons Bat Mitzvah invitation set:

  • Dominant colors are fuchsia pink and royal purple
  • Party balloons, ribbon, bows, napkins, flowers and other decor
  • Unique wording layout
  • Invitation is versatile enough to contain wording for reception and/or RSVP card. Or you can purchase separate insert cards. It’s up to you!
  • Looks great on any of the available paper types, but #110 ice pearl paper would add some sparkle.
  • Wording can be changed however you’d like.

There is currently a Bat Mitzvah invitation, reply card, and reception card available for purchase in this design. The invitation is very versatile and can include the wording for the service, the reception/party, and the rsvp if you want a more affordable option. Alternatively, you can also purchase a reception and/or rsvp card separately and the wording on the invitation can be changed to reflect this. Any of the wording can be changed (or removed) so that you get exactly what you want.

Purchase this pink purple party balloons Bat Mitzvah invitation set

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  • Party balloons decor pink purple Bat Mitzvah invitation
  • Party balloons decor pink purple Bat Mitzvah rsvp card
  • Party balloons decor pink purple Bat Mitzvah reception card

Want any other items to go along with this design or have questions about purchasing this invitation set? Contact Lemon Leaf Prints designer Webgrrl using the “ask the designer” link on any of the above product pages and Webgrrl will help with any questions or requests.

Free Printable Tennis Bar Mitzvah Cupcake Toppers

free printable basketball Bar Mitzvah cupcake toppers mockup
Here’s another fun freebie for you! My Jewish Party is happy to provide these free printable tennis Bar Mitzvah cupcake toppers!

There are 4 different cupcake topper designs. All have a yellow, green tennis ball background. The four designs are: Star of David, Mazel Tov, Bar Mitzvah, and blank tennis ball (see below). All of these free printable Bar Mitzvah cupcake toppers are tennis yellow / green, black, and white in color.

Mix and match for a fun look! They would look great on a tennis themed dessert or candy buffet table.

Download the printable .pdf file linked below. Then print them out on 8.5″x11″ cardstock and cut them out. They are 2″ round cupcake toppers which is a standard size. You can also print them out on sticker paper if you want. This file is formatted to fit Avery sticker template #22807. Dress them up by layering a 2.5″ scalloped or other shaped cardstock shape behind. Glue them to small straws and stick them in the cupcakes. That’s all there is to it.

Download these free printable tennis Bar Mitzvah cupcake toppers

Download the printable .pdf file for these
free printable basketball Bar Mitzvah cupcake toppers
free printable tennis ball Bar Mitzvah cupcake toppers

Download the printable .pdf file for these
free printable basketball Bar Mitzvah cupcake toppers
We hope you enjoy this free printable! We will be posting more fun freebies, so check back often.

This free printable was designed by designer NiteOwl Studio for My Jewish Party.

You are free to use this for your own personal use. No commercial use allowed! Not for resale!